Being a pastor is no mean feat. Over and above everything, they must please God. Their pleasing of God is dependent on their service to the congregations they lead. Aware of this, many pastors are tempted to do everything on their own. This is sometimes overwhelming to them.
Besides the things they see on their own and react to, pastors are also influenced by what their congregants tell them. That’s why the sheep must always mind what they tell their pastor.
Below are some of the things you should not tell your pastor:
1. “Great Sermon”
What you should know is that pastors didn’t pick up the pastoral role for a feel-good pat on the back. They went into it because of their deep longing to offer undefiled service to God. Pastor Aaron Loy says that anyone making such a sentence to him makes him feel that he didn’t do well in the sermon. Why? Because he doesn’t want people thinking about him after the sermon. It’s supposed to be about Jesus. If you want to give your pastor a pat on the back, simply tell him how you experience the power of God in the church community and how the church environment helps you grow spiritually.
2. “We’re Church Shopping”
The church isn’t some pair of sneakers you go around shopping for in the market. While it’s not wrong for someone to try out a few churches before settling down in one, the process isn’t that of shopping for products, where you list down some attributes that have to be met. Instead of telling your pastor that you’re church shopping, it’s better to tell him the kind of church you’d want to be part of.
3. “You Know The Right Thing You Should Do”
Pastors have so much to do in the church. Besides their leadership level roles, they also have to constantly make follow-ups on the sheep to understand their spiritual growth. Telling your pastor that he “knows what he should do” could just work to add him another responsibility, which in turn impacts negatively on his relationship with his family. When pastors have to chase everything that’s shoved their way, the ministry is likely to be affected in a negative way. It’s good to know that the pastor’s role isn’t to do everything in the ministry but to impact you so that you can pick up the good works and do them. Instead of asking your pastor to do something, ask if it’s okay if you went ahead and handled it.
4. “We’re not connected to the church”
One of the best feelings in the church is to have a good connection with God and also with fellow church members. It’s not always that cozy though. There are challenges we face in the church and some brothers or sisters whom we may not naturally like to be around. Reading even from Apostle Paul’s letters, it’s clear there were conflicts, differences and conflicting ideas in the first church. However, their union was emboldened by their individual and collective desire to serve Christ. You cannot come into a church and just find the connection. It’s something that has to be worked on in oneness.
5. “I’m not Being Spiritually Nourished”
Telling that to your pastor basically translates to telling him that his sermons don’t work for you. While it could be true that your pastor isn’t sharing the Word in a manner that you’d prefer, it’s good to understand that not all churches are perfect; in fact, none is. Saying you’re not being spiritually nourished makes things even worse for the pastor. For someone in the church, it shouldn’t be about being spoon-fed by the pastor. How about just taking more responsibility and working with the church leadership to enhance spiritual growth?